I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him.

Because he had a reluctance to grow up, he wanted to stay young in as many ways as possible.

Women's rights, gay rights—the younger a guy is, the more evolved he is. But during our fifth date, over burgers and beers, he asked sheepishly, "Do you know how old I am?

" It turns out he was 41, a whopping 13 years older than me.

Would you say that you are more attracted to older men than younger men, or men in your age group? I've also always been attracted to power dynamics and to the idea of inhabiting a more sexually submissive role.

However, after the relationship with the significantly older man ended I vowed to only date close to my age again.

I think that there is definitely some truth to the "age is just a number" mentality, but having the experience I did, I don't buy it completely.

And I can't think of anything sexier than that James Bond-like knowledge.

But it's what he say that I count as the real blessing.